Hey loves, so for Christmas, my mom got me a book that is called "Singleness Redefined. Don't worry, I asked for the book my mom isn't trying to send any hints. I knew that the book would be good but I had no idea it would be SO good! A lot of the times being single doesn't bother me, doing things alone like going to a restaurant doesn't bother me, but there are times when I crave to have that person and reading this book shed a new light on everything I though I already new. I wanted to share with you a few quotes from the book and encourage you to go read it because I cannot sum the book up enough.
"If we have an ultimate passion other than God, we will eventually lose that thing" (Leutwiler 49). This struck me. God isn't keeping a man away from me as a punishment, He is using it to make Himself first in my life. So that HE is my ultimate passion, not a guy. It is so easy to get caught up in putting my worth in what a guy thinks when my worth needs to be put in Christ. God is teaching me so much in my season of singleness and waiting on a husband is okay.
Another quote that really stood out to me was "....if a man is not pursuing you, he is not really interested. If he were, he would pursue." (Leutwiler 75). This one caught me a little off guard but the more I thought about it the more true it seemed. Now, some guys are shy about pursing and it takes them a while but you can normally tell if they want to or not. I just think about all the hours I have wasted trying to make someone who wasn't interested in me, try to pursue me. That was crazy. If a guy isn't interested in you at the beginning he will never love you well if you force your way into a relationship. Just be patient and when and if he is ready to pursue you, He will.
I have always heard that God directs my steps and that He is in control of it all and I thought I understood that, until I read this: "Has not the Lord ordained that I now be single? If it were wrong or out of His plan, I would be declaring that he is not God."(Leutwiler 84). I had never processed that my unbelief in His plan would be the same as me saying He isn't God. I can't tell you the conviction that this brought to my heart because I am sooooo guilty of this.
My main take away from the book is this, God hasn't left you behind, He has given you this season. How am I using it to serve Him? This isn't my life to decide what I want to do, this is HIS life that HE can use however He chooses. Getting to place of that freedom is hard but once you're there you'll never look back. Be patient, God will provide all our needs.
xo, em
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